Ladies Please Stop Settling

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I will never understand why women keep settling.  There is just so much “D” in the world(and good ‘D’ at that), that I don’t think I will EVER understand.

Over at Madame Noire, there is an interesting article about women who basically try to make Mr. Wrong into Mr. Right because they are so desperate to get married.  Take a look.

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To Be a Side Chick or Not To Be A Side Chick

To Be a Side Chick or Not To Be A Side Chick

That apparently is still the question in 2013.  I remember last year the motto amongst a lot of women was, “These Hoes Stay Winning.”   As we round out 2013, I’m finding that now we are having the side chick debate. You know, the one asking which is basically is it better,  to be a side chick and/or is the side chick to be blamed?  Personally, I have to say the man is the one to blame.  Before I get into why at the end of the day, it’s the man’s fault, let’s take a look at the side chick debate from both sides.

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Cheating: Why Do Women Blame the Other Woman?

Cheating - Why Do Women Blame the Other Woman

There has been an issue that has been plaguing me for a while.  It’s the issue of cheating, more in particular, why women blame the other woman.  I don’t get it.  Look ladies, even if the woman knows that he’s “your man,” it’s not her fault, mainly because, he’s “YOUR MAN,” it’s his responsibility to keep his “little man” in his pants, no matter how hard the woman is throwing her Kit Kat at him.  Think about it, he’s your man, key word there is “your”  and I’m pretty sure he knows that he’s your man, so there’s no reason why he should give in to any other chick that isn’t you.  Women need to stop blaming the other woman and start blaming the man and/or themselves.  And yes, I did say themselves.  Women please be honest with yourself, sometimes we can drive a man to cheat.

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Your Man is Friends with His Ex, so Now What

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Picture Courtesy of Bossip

You have just met the most incredible man of your life.  He’s smart, handsome, and funny. He has a great sense of humor, loves his mom, and opens up the doors for you. He pays for everything, and all that jazz. The star in his crown, he’s even respectful to women.  As a matter of fact, he’s so respectful to women that he’s even able to stay best friends with his ex.  If you are like most females on this Earth, this is where loving of his respect for women ends.

Now, while most of us women, actually kind of respect the “idea,” that a man is still friends with his ex, I don’t know many women that can handle it.  Think about it. Just think about the things your man does with all  his friends  Just thinking about it can cause a lot of problems, and a lot of self-doubt, which can be the lethal injection to ANY RELATIONSHIP, no matter how good or solid it may be.

So below are 5 tips to help you better handle your man deciding to be best friends with his ex.

Tip #1: Stay Calm – Look, since she’s his ex-girlfriend, she was there before you, and nine times out of ten, she will be there after you, so there’s no reason to get all crazy.  I’m also guessing, you knew that he was friends with her before you two got together and in the beginning you were cool with it but now that it’s been 6 months or so, you’re starting to get tired of it.  Well I have news for you chic, suck it up.  Unless he’s breaking plans with you left and right to be with her, and putting her before your relationship, there is no reason for you to go all ham on him because he hangs out with her every once in a while, or because his mother is still cool with her.

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